Does My Ex Want Me Back? How to Avoid Putting Your Heart Through a Blender All Over Again
Author: Robert R. Cook
Is your ex starting to show you a little bit of interest? It's usually easy to tell. They start to laugh at your jokes again, or they put a hand on your shoulder. Are they starting to text message, email or call you about things they really don't need to know or could have gotten from someone else? Do you notice they are just outright starting to flirt with you? If so you are probably asking yourself "Does My Ex Want Me Back?"
Well of course these are good signs but it is not time to breakout the champagne...yet. First of all you have to ask the obvious. Do you really want your ex back in the first place? Assuming you do, you need to take it slow or you will find yourself out in the cold again. Since they are showing signs of warming draw them in even more. The best way to do that is by playing a little hard to get. Don't be obnoxious about it. Just play it cool. Perhaps by not diving back into their arms as soon as they showed signs of interest was the reason they're feeling toward you began to thaw out in the first place.
Often times when a couple has been in a relationship for any length of time and then break up there is a natural tendency to miss each other. This is especially true for a couple that has been together for over a year. Let's face it, you spent a lot of time with one another and there are a lot of memories. Those are your memories together and no one can take away from you. There is also a natural tendency to miss the person behind those memories. So if you are thinking "does my ex want me back", there is a good chance with all those nice memories they are thinking the same thing as you for the same reasons.
Beware of the trap though. Ex lovers will sometimes show interest again after a break up but they are just playing a mind game. They may be feeling insecure and see clearly that you still love them and are just looking for attention but with no intention of ever having you back. Make sure that your ex really does have some genuine interest in you. They may just be in a holding pattern until they find someone else that they are really interested in. Or even worse is that your memories and their memories of your past relationship are very different. They may be looking for some kind of revenge for a past action you may have taken. This is not likely, but just make sure you are reading the situation correctly before you put your heart on the line again.
When there are a few signs of life between you and your ex a lot of people want to know "does my ex want me back?" Unless you want your heart put through a blender again it's best to make sure you know where you ex is going with their new interest in you. Playing a little hard to get keeps you in the game but does not open you up to another heart thrashing if your ex's heart is not with yours.